Things aren’t always as they seem. We filter everything from the outside world through our own unique lenses. So what’s actually happening and what we perceive to be happening can be two very different things.
Like looking in the mirror for instance. The image that’s reflected back to you is reality, but what you actually see might be far from the objective truth. Our past experiences and our current thoughts and beliefs warp the truth of the reflection so that what we are actually seeing is a completely effed up version of reality. When you look in the mirror you might see imperfections and a body that disappoints you. But what if you turned that around. What if you followed up the thought of how far from perfect your body is with the thought “or not?”
I woke up this morning with an unusual amount of anxiety because today I got my taxes done. Ever since I’ve been self employed, I’ve been terrified of the IRS. A loooong time ago, the business I owned with my ex-husband got audited, and it was a nightmare. It all ended up OK, but it left me fearful. Every year since then it’s the same feeling of dread when tax season gets close. Objectively, I had nothing to worry about. But I was anxious all morning because my overwhelming thought was that getting my taxes done sucks.
Or not. I could have saved myself some misery with that little thought. Because I’m home now and my taxes are done and it didn’t suck. In fact, it was the best experience I’ve had doing my taxes since being self-employed. There’s apparently a new law that really helped me out. Yay!
I need to lose 10 pounds! Or not.
Getting my taxes done is going to suck! Or not.
The dog and the chickens will never be friends! Or not.
See where I’m going here?
I want to say thank you to my friend Charles for talking about this concept the other day.
I’m really good at making something terrible out of nothing at all. I can make the tone of a text message I receive to mean something bad, and spend hours worrying that I did something wrong and they probably hate me!
I’m loving the addition of “or not” into my life because it’s helping me stay a bit more level headed. And I think it could be a useful dialogue to have with yourself if you’re scared to start working out.
It’s normal to be nervous when you start something new. The unknown can be scary … or not.
Maybe it’s just unknown.
If you’re hesitant to start a fitness program, I want you to think about why you’re hesitant. What are your fears? Maybe you think it will hurt? Maybe you think it will be too hard? Or ineffective? Or you won’t be able to stick with it? Maybe you feel guilty about investing in yourself or taking time for yourself? Maybe you think you aren’t worth it? You might fail. It might not work.